Catchy phrase…even catchier song…
Unfortunately, blame is often a catchy theme in our lives, especially as young adults.
With the many things going on in a young adult’s life—achieving various levels of education, finding the right job and career, discovering God’s call on your life, and of course, finding Mr. or Mrs. Right—there are numerous decisions that have to be made in this season of life. With these many decisions, there are also many opportunities for mistakes, and with that also comes the opportunity for passing blame.
Check out what Paul says in Galatians 6:4-5:
“But each one must carefully scrutinize his own work [examining his actions, attitudes, and behavior], and then he can have the personal satisfaction and inner joy of doing something commendable without comparing himself to another. For every person will have to bear [with patience] his own burden [of faults and shortcomings for which he alone is responsible].” (AMP)
Paul is clearly admonishing Christians to accept responsibility, act maturely in response to our shortcomings by “bearing our own burdens” or, in other words, take the blame.
Life is FULL of shortcomings, which is a nice way of saying “we’re going to flat out blow it” numerous times. As I look back and reflect on some of those shortcomings in my own life, I can’t help but see the irony in some of those situations. The motive (at least when I think of my own life) in shifting the blame off one’s self is to prohibit a delay or penalty of some sort. But by doing this, blaming someone else or something else, you’re actually causing the exact delay you wished to avoid.
Did a grandparent or parent ever tell you when you were young, “two wrongs don’t make a right”? So true. Making an error and dropping the ball isn’t so bad, that is, when you pick it back up right away and don’t make the same error twice. But passing the blame elsewhere after that error is making a second wrong.
It just doesn’t make a right; it just makes it worse.
When you respond to mistakes, failures, sin, or any problem by passing the blame or refusing to take the responsibility, you put a stop sign on God’s divine process and progress.
I truly believe God wants us blessed, prosperous and thriving in life. That being said, He is also a God of process, and a God who requires us to accept the blame when need be.
If you need some more Scriptural example, check out Romans 2:1, Genesis 3:11-13 and Proverbs 28:13.
The adage, “honesty is the best policy” may be old, but it’s so true. I believe that God smiles when we take a good, hard, honest look at some of the decisions we’ve made and wish we could take back, because through those experiences—and more importantly, how we deal with them—is how we grow.
This is really the whole point of what salvation is. Over the last decade, church and Christianity have changed A LOT. Doctrines, theologies and messages have been changed, for better or worse depending on who you ask, but the foundation of the Christian faith is salvation, and the main message of salvation can’t change:
- Salvation is a gift from a God who loves us and sacrificed His Son.
- Salvation is available for any man or woman.
- Salvation is received through these pre-requisites: confess our sin, believe on Him, and accept the gift of salvation.
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (I John 1:9 ESV)
So be encouraged today! The gifts of salvation, forgiveness, and second chances are ALL free! And who knows, maybe taking that responsibility, and even taking the blame at times, could just be the thing that brings you to the next level of growth in your life.
-Joe Arminio, Jr.